Can I Get My Ex Boyfriend Back If He Is Asking For More Space?

If you have heard your partner tell you they need some time off the relationship, then you know the gut feelings that follows when your partner is asking for more space.A million questions go through your mind as you seek to find out what the problem could be that is making them ask for more space. You also can't stop asking if this will be the end of your relationship or not. Can I get my ex back if they want more space becomes a quest.

That a man needs space is not unheard of but the real question is what does it mean when a man says he needs space from a relationship? Is it that he just wants to take a little time off from the relationship to sort himself out, figure out what he is feeling or is it just a diplomatic way to call the relationship quits without formally dumping you?

This is a question that baffles every woman who has been in a relationship and had her man make such a request. When it happened to me, my first thought was that he had lost his first love for me but did not want to hurt my feelings by directly telling me that the relationship was off.

Although this is sometimes true, it is nevertheless not the case in every situation. Over my dating years, I discovered that men have different reasons that make them seek to have some space from the relationship.

When a woman is in love, she wants to spend as much time as possible with her man and may constantly tell him how she loves him. She may feel lonely when he is absent and thus spend a lot of time calling him or texting him when she is away from him. While this may be ok for some men, for others it may pose a problem.

Too much proclamation of love might be harmful to a relationship, especially when the relationship is new. He might want to take his time to know you better and not rush things , hence your love declarations may make him feel pressurized by the relationship as he may feel you are asking for more commitment from him, which he does not feel prepared for at the time. This may therefore cause him to want to withdraw from the relationship, thus his need for space.

Another reason why he may ask for space may be that you have said or done something that changed the way he feels about you and he is not sure how to handle it. So he asks for space in order to think things over. In my own case, my illness made him fear commitment. At the beginning he thought he could deal with it and accept me as I was but with time he came to grips with the reality and wanted out.

Sometimes a relationship may be going very well, you have been dating for a while and things seem to be getting more serious when suddenly the man pulls back and asks for space. This may be because he has stuff he is still dealing with. For example, he may have suffered rejection in the past and thus be scared by the thought of getting too close. Probably his parents always used to fight, hence he fears the same thing might happen to him.

Having sexual intercourse in the early stages of a relationship is a great relationship killer as it gives the impression that the woman is cheap and too easy to get. Every man wants to experience the thrill of being able to conquer a woman’s heart and that thrill is prematurely ended when intimacy is rushed. Though a woman might be interested in a relationship, she should nevertheless play a little hard to get.

If you are dating a guy and he says he needs space it may not have anything to do with you. Do not think that he is rejecting you as this may make you feel insecure thus demanding more closeness from him. This will make him only pull away more.

The best thing you can do is to look back and see if you did anything wrong, and apologize for it immediately. Then give him his needed space. He will sort himself out and come back to you when he is ready.

If he does not come back, remember that he may not be emotionally ready for the kind of close companionship you need and deserve so you are better off without him. Don’t rush a relationship at its early stage as knowing each other takes time. Also remember that men and women have different views on closeness. What may make you feel close to him, may make him feel smothered, so find a balance.

Finally don’t be discouraged, you may not have met the right man yet. You may have been meeting men who need someone different from you. Be patient, eventually you will meet a man who wants the same close and consistent companionship like you. Then you will be emotionally fulfilled and it would have been worth the wait. My wait was not in vain and today I have met and married the man who loves and accepts me just as I am.

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